Question : I was in a one sided love with my best friend but he refused. I still hope that I might get him one day.
Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
Kudos to you for handling her emotions well as far as one sided love is concerned. It is possible you are hurting right now, even though you’re still best friends with the boy and it is nice to hope that things will work out in your favour, but there’s also a possibility that it might never happen and holding on to love that is not returned, can turn out to be very painful in the long run! You might start questioning everything around you, including your self-worth, but that is not necessary.
So, instead of desperately trying to get approvals from your best friend and hope that he will fall in love with you one day (having those feelings is natural), I would also urge you to keep your options open as there might be other people out there, who might also end up seeing you for the amazing person you are and falling in love with you in the process. As of now, it might seem difficult to look at things from a different perspective, since you’re feelings for your friend are really at an all time high, but as time goes by and you find yourself getting involved in different activities, those feelings will slowly fizzle out.
In the meantime, focus on becoming a better version of yourself, a more confident you and then, at some point, someone out there, will come to appreciate all those beautiful qualities you have and love you for the person you are; but all of this is possible only when you work on self-improvement.
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Expert Teentalkindia