Breakups are tough. But there are things you can do that may help you feel better.
Breakups are tough. When you invest so much emotionally in someone and when that bond breaks, it might feel like the end of the world.
It doesn’t matter if the relationship was good, toxic, lasted months or years– breakups can leave us feeling heartbroken, lost, physically and mentally exhausted. It straight away affects our mind and body.
In this delicate state, we must take care of ourselves. It doesn’t matter if you were the one who initiated the split or the one getting dumped, closure is imperative.
When a relationship ends, it’s normal to feel a sense of loss, as though something is missing from your life. But there are things you can do that may help you feel better.
Identifying and respecting your feelings
The most crucial thing one needs to understand and accept is that there is a grieving period, a sense of abandonment, a sense of terror about the future and disappointment. There are so many emotions involved in a breakup– anger, sadness, loneliness, feelings of rejection and uncertainty about the future— and it’s essential to confront them head-on. You have a right to feel what you feel, without judgement clouding this.
Do things that you love
Treat yourself to something that makes you feel good. It could be something as simple as sipping a cup of coffee with a friend or something as extravagant as going for a spa day to pamper yourself. Self-care is essential to the healing process, and doing things that make you feel happy not just on the outside but also on the inside can help you heal. It will also help you regain your lost confidence.
Looking through a positive lens
Reminding yourself of all the great things that you have and feel thankful for them can boost your wellbeing and brighten your outlook on life. The loss of love is painful, but the presence of your best friends or family besides you to help you get out of this troubled phase is something truly to be thankful for.
Try doing something for others
One way of healing a broken heart is by mending other hearts. Performing acts of kindness towards others can give a sense of empowerment and it is also an opening to your heart. Whether it is helping another friend in need, or contributing time at an old-age home or orphanage can not just fix your heart but heal your soul too.
Don’t rely on alcohol or drugs
No matter what various TV shows and movies have taught us, alcohol and drug consumption is only harmful for you. It might feel tempting to get off your head on alcohol or drugs but in the end, that’ll just make it worse and you’ll feel even worse when the intoxication wears off. What’s worse, your situation will poorly affect people who love you and care for you.