Question : I am a teenager with trust issues, which is why I have a very limited friend circle. Please advice me on how to build trust? Teentalker
Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for reaching us and sharing your concerns. We’ve all been hurt at some point in our lives and I’m guessing that you are no different.
The best way to find out if you can trust anybody is to trust them. There is no magic wand to suddenly allow you to trust again. The only way to trust again is to grab hold of our fear and work through it. It’s completely normal to feel fear. The fear of rejection, fear of getting it wrong, fear of being laughed at, fear of the unknown, fear of being taken advantage of, fear of losing something of ourselves.
Take baby steps day by day to become more open and trusting. Start with trusting in the little things. We should not expect others to earn our trust. We learn to trust again by trusting again. Trust is something that is worked on daily in a relationship. It’s not a case of once we trust someone we can sit back and breathe a sigh of relief. We trust someone by saying we understand that deep down they are a good person with good intentions and with integrity.
What are you resisting? Are you living your current relationship or even imagining a relationship where you’re living through your past negative experiences or are you open enough to be vulnerable and trust again. Remember at all times that your emotional wellbeing does not depend on someone else, it’s up to you. You can choose to live life drawing on negative or positive life experiences. Your past does not have to be the same as your future.
It is easy to make a promise but hard to keep one. You should watch people’s actions to see if they are trustworthy, not follow their words. If you ask them for a favor, reserve your judgment until the job ends. If you want to build trust with someone, you need to be trustworthy yourself.
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Regards,
Expert Teentalk India